Hi, I’m John Freeman
I believe that stress is the cause of ALL of our problems - emotional, mental and physical.
By focusing on our stress levels INSTEAD of our problems we can ease our way through life watching our problems dissolve themselves in a magical way.
I spent most of my life struggling
I know struggle! It’s been a part of my life since I was six when my father died. My coping strategies have traditionally been to be a people-pleaser or shouting and swearing. Both of which are great ways of ensuring I stayed stressed and have made life extremely difficult at times.
I’m sick of crap advice about stress
So much stress advice comes from people who know nothing about what it’s like to be stressed. If you are sick of trite advice from people who don't understand YOUR stress, you're in the right place. My aim is to give you help, support and guidance that will actually change your life.
My Mission is a Simple one
To help you ditch your stress and THRIVE in any situation, so your journey is fun and satisfying.
To give you the most dependable support, encouragement, and guidance available anywhere.
My dad died when I was six. Mum wasn’t provided for, so she had to go straight out to work. When I needed my mum the most, she wasn’t there for me.
For some reason, and I still don’t know why, I decided to hide my pain from everybody and pretend I was alright. I used to hide away and cry for hours, and then come out and pretend nothing was happening. That single crazy decision by that broken little six-year-old caused me a lifetime of struggle and pain.
The suppression of my true feelings gave me a terrible temper, made me come to believe I was unwanted, killed off all my self-esteem, and basically made me think I was no good.
I was unable to make friends. When I became a teenager and discovered girls, I was frozen with fear and only capable of being their friend. I didn’t take up a career when I left school, just took drugs and got drunk a lot. I wasted my life; only allowing negative influencers to guide me.
I can divide my life into three parts. My childhood was dominated by temper, which I eventually managed to get some resemblance of control over. Then, until age 28 it was all anxiety and depression. Then I discovered there was such a thing as a difference between a positive and negative mental attitude.
I set about ‘making something of myself’, and told everyone who knew me that I was going to be a great success. They all thought I was stupid!
So, with zero support from anyone I started charging ahead with no self-esteem, no self-belief, and no hope!
You guessed it, I didn’t manage to create any success. All I managed to create was massive stress and a foul temper again.
The harder I tried to be successful, the more stressful it became. I was losing my temper about 5-6 times a day. I was never violent but I would shout, swear and kick things like you wouldn’t believe.
In 2001 I studied and became a hypnotherapist. Whilst I was great at helping others, personally I was angry, stroppy, moody, and damn right miserable.
It’s been a long journey, but now I live with love in my heart and I am able to help others with all that I've learnt.
The lessons it has taken me a lifetime to learn are now the shortcuts I use to help others get stress-free, to make friends with their emotions and form meaningful relationships with themselves, as well as others.
And here we are. The culmination of a lifetime of struggles, along with all my therapy and coaching experience, all rolled up and ready to save the world - one frazzled person at a time.
I struggled throughout a huge amount of my life and I always did it alone. I always longed for someone with empathy to reach out a hand and help me.
I am now the compassionate, caring and insightful coach that I needed myself.
- I believe in simplicity and efficiency - why take eight weeks when we can do it in four?
- I believe in intuition and empathy - I guarantee I will make a powerful connection with you at a time when you need it most.
- I believe in doing what you say you're going to do - if I say I'll be there for you, I will.
- I believe in looking after people who need it - once you ask for my help I'll be there for you for as long as you need me.
- I believe in your ability to get back on top and regain your confidence, cope with anything and start enjoying life again.
- I believe that looking after those who are struggling is a privilege and I am grateful to each and every one of my clients for trusting me with that responsibility.
- I believe, from the bottom of my heart, that I am the man to help you if you are finding life hard work right now.